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The Science of Habit Formation

Introduction: Habits can make you a winner or a loser. Identifying and managing your habits is a lifelong task. I have tried to explain this in an interactive way with day-to-day life problems. It will be a combination of conversations and narrative explanations. Let's deep dive into habits. What is a Habit? It is a fine Monday morning, and the entire office is in a hurry. With more people in an agitated state, the whole office looks like a country preparing to wage war against another. The cabins in the office are rowed, and the corner cabin lies near the window. It seems it is the most peaceful place in the entire office. There, we can check on two friends, Arjun and Chaitanya, who sit next to each other. Both are from the same team, and they both are the heroes of our series. Let's hear what they talk about. Arjun: Hey Buddy, I missed my cab again today. That guy didn’t wait a few more minutes and canceled. Chaitanya (with a smile): Dude, it's been three times this mon...

How to be Happy Everyday?

Two sculptors lived nearby. They both were good at their skill and in the process of creating their masterpiece. They dedicated their whole time to their masterpiece and worked on it days and nights.

An angel admired by their dedication granted a wish that they could ask anything they wanted to know. Both of them asked when their masterpiece would be completed. 

Angel told, it would check with God and would tell them once it is back. As promised, it came back and told the first sculptor, he would finish his masterpiece in 10 years. Upon hearing this, he started crying and replied 'Do I have to wait for 10 years to have my masterpiece?'

Angel went to the second sculptor and told him that it would take 20 years for him to complete his masterpiece. It expected another drama but he replied with joy ' Oh. Thank God and started working on his sculpture.

Confused by their reactions, it went to God again and asked why they reacted differently. 

God explained that the first one emphasis on his sculpture so he thought he would be happy only after he finished the sculpture. So the thought of waiting for 10 years to be happy, broke him.

On the other hand, the second one enjoyed the sculpting instead of being obsessed with the sculpture. So he was happy every day with his progress and would be more happy when it is completed. He was not creating a masterpiece but mastering his skill. 

This is the same scenario we are facing in our lives. Everyone wants to be successful and to be successful we have Goals, plans, and action items. 

When we think happiness lies in the goal, we start to chase it and fed up, if we find it is a long run. 

We are so obsessed with our goals and success and forget how we are excelling at our own pace.

But the people who emphasize the process instead of a goal, not chasing the goal but following the process. They know they are excelling at their skills and are really happy about it.

Does it mean goal setting is bad? Ofcourse Not.

All of us define the goal and the process. But people who emphasize on process, make it their daily routine to follow them perfectly. It becomes a daily goal for them. Achieving these small goals make them happy and gives them pride that they did a small of their bigger goal. 

Psychologically these small victories play a major role and make us confident. The sweetness of the victories drives us more towards our goals and keeps us motivated. 

Set a Goal, but dedicate yourself to the Process, rather than the Goal. Remember, happiness is not in the Goal because it will change once you reach the goal. It truly lies in the process of excelling towards the goal.

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